17 June 2019 ... min. read Listen

People assume I’m transgender

Most people assume I’m transgender, but I’m not sure I identify completely with that. I prefer being called ‘she’ and ‘her’, I date guys, wear make-up and have long hair. But I don’t really wear dresses and I don’t want any operations. The spectrum is so broad and I don’t know yet how I want to identify myself. That’s why I say I’m gender fluid. Or sometimes I say I’m androgynous.

There was no big coming out for me. My family always knew me as feminine and flamboyant. I grew up in a household with two cousins who are also gay. It helped me accept who I am. I’ve always known I was different. Since I was four or five years old, I was always with the girls. I didn’t really interact with guys at all, I preferred being with my girlfriends.

There are many people like me in the Philippines and there’s a fairly tolerant attitude towards us, especially in highly urbanised cities like Manila. But there is still a stigma attached. I’ve always worked extra hard to prove I can earn people’s respect. I want to show that we can do more than just work in a bar or in the entertainment industry.

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Growing up, I was very focused on studying and passing my board exam. I went to a parochial Catholic high school. Here, the biggest issue wasn’t my sexuality but that I had to cut my hair in a very short military style. It was only after college that I blossomed. I felt liberated when I no longer had to wear a uniform or conform to the haircut. I haven’t cut my hair since graduating in 2010.

Knowing ING is a Dutch bank, I was optimistic when I applied that I would be accepted for who I am. ING surpassed my expectations. My sexuality and the way I dress didn’t even come up during the interview. I have gained so much confidence here and have been given so many opportunities, irrespective of what I am, how I look, or the colour lipstick I wear. After a year, I was already training people and leading a team. Although my team is mostly heterosexual, I don’t feel any discrimination. They are engaged and I’ve earned their respect.

Within six months of joining ING, I helped to set up GALA in the Philippines, our network for lesbian, gay, bi and trans (LGBT+) people in the shared service centre in Manila. I’m on the steering committee. I was the first of my kind here. Now we are three transwomen. I interviewed one of them. She told me afterwards she was so relieved that I did. She was a new graduate and hadn’t known what to expect. Seeing me gave her confidence to know she would be accepted at ING.

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